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How to be a better listener

This post includes a few tips to help you be a better listener and improve your conversations and relationships with friends, family, and coworkers.


Becoming a better listener is a great way to improve both personal and work relationships.

This post includes a few tips to help you be a better listener and improve your conversations and relationships with friends, family, and coworkers.

Here are four tips to help you become a better listener.
Shut up and just listen

Give the other person uninterrupted time when they are talking.

This is especially difficult for me as I am in the habit of always trying to connect the dots by finishing someone else’s thought. It is something I am actively working on but is definitely easier said than done.

Summarize what you heard

Repeat back what you heard once the person is finished talking.

The best thing to do is simply listen and when they are done finishing their thought you can summarize back to them what you heard to get their confirmation. This really helps to let the speaker know: 1. you are listening 2. you are interested and 3. you are willing to collaborate.

Be patient

Make sure the person is done talking before you summarize what they said back to them.

Hearing is not the same as listening, we need to really focus on what the person is saying. So make sure you are patient, listening to every word, and wait for the person to finish.

Again, this is a tough one for me as I often like to interject and show that I know what they are saying by finishing their sentences for them or speaking before they are done. This can often lead to me sounding like a “know-it-all” even if that is not my intent. And oftentimes my assumptions are incorrect which just leads to me looking like a jerk.

Listen with intent

Be sure to listen with the intent of understanding and without making assumptions.

When we listen to someone, particularly when it is someone we know or are close to, we tend to make our own assumptions about what they mean. This happens even more so when the person is talking about a topic with which you are familiar. Do your best to listen as if you had never heard them before or it is a brand new subject to you so that you avoid making these kinds of assumptions.

Being a good listener is such a valuable thing, not only when it comes to your personal relationships but also in your career and developing relationships with your coworkers. I know I have not always been the best listener and these tips are helping me to change that, I hope they can help you too.

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This GrowthHack was contributed by Keegan
This GrowthHack was contributed by Keegan

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